When I was moving last year I found a book packed away in some boxes I must have ordered decades ago, while I was still married, called “The Peter Pan Syndrome, Men Who Have Never Grown Up. Did I read it? I don’t remember, because I was still under the shared fantasy with my husband of pretending to be in a relationship that was so insanely good, but one which caused me an immense amount of pain.
If you’ve been in one of these relationships you know exactly what I’m talking about—the intense dating period, the passion, the cravings, the back and forth, the tension, the almost drug like high you felt like around this person, but as we all know now, these relationships were not based in Truth, and truth is essential to building and keeping a solid, sustainable relationship.
Yes, narcissists are known for pathologically lying, but let’s take responsibility for the lies we told ourselves lest we continue to be perpetual victims to this crazy making.
I clearly did not have a solid self esteem and good boundaries when we met, but you’d best believe I’m learning to make the most incredible lemonade now out of the cards thst I was dealt, and many cards that I chose. I heard what I wanted to hear and saw afar i wanted to see because I was not ready to step out of the fantasy and into the cold harsh world of reality, where ultimately I’m responsible for myself and my life’s outcomes.
Please don’t be a victim, for if you remain one, your life force is still siphoning to them.
Do the work to take ownership of yourself, your life and your choices and practice impeccable spiritual boundaries, where no one gets access to you until they have proven they can reciprocate your love and empathy back to you in a healthy way. Energy is reak, and so are energy vampires. Don’t feed them.
In the end, this was never about them, it was about your own spiritual growth and journey, they were mereiy the trigger that started the initiation of your path, and now you get to decide what happens next.
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